Best Three Ways to Recognize International Women’s Day (March 8)

International Women’s Day is on Saturday March 8.

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For those of you that  don’t know about the day, it is a global day celebrating the economic, political and social achievements of women past, present and future.

This makes it  one extremely powerful day!  A day in which women should be celebrated.  This year’s theme is INSPIRING CHANGE. 

“The story of women’s struggle for equality belongs to no single feminist nor to any one organization but to the collective efforts      of all who care about human rights” Gloria Steinem

That is why I believed that this day deserved some attention (which I always find lacking in the news).    Women are the cornerstone of society and contribute so much to everyone’s daily lives.  For me, it will be a day of reflection and a day to learn and appreciate the challenges and struggles that other women are experiencing in the world.

So I wanted to share some of the best three ways to Recognize International Women’s Day on March 8:

1.  Let everyone you know (or don’t know) that March 8th is International Women’s Day

2.  Find a woman who had inspired change in this world and learn more about her. 

3.  Celebrate the day – in a way which is special and honors all of the women in the world

If you are like me, you are hooked Twitter, Pinterest, Facebook, etc. and I encourage you to use those mediums to shout it (metaphorically) to the world that it’s International Women’s Day on March 8.

Visit http://www.internationalwomensday.com/default.asp#.Uxkd4XyYbIU

Follow https://twitter.com/womensday @womensday@UN_Women @WomenforWomen @SayNO_Unite @UN and all and any other relevant group that is promoting the day.  You won’t believe the information you will find in all of those tweets.  Its amazing (and can uplift the spirit) and maybe cause people to take action against the injustices.

LinkedIn: http://www.linkedin.com/groups/internationalwomensday-1406777

For my second best of three – I wanted to focus on a woman or women that truly inspiring or inspired change.  Find one and research them,  Find out all about them.  Make them a project that you want to work on.

For my last best, I think that this is a day that needs to be celebrated.  If you are a woman – make it a special day when you do something for yourself and others.  If you have children, let them know about the day and make it a celebration of women – find a way to celebrate it – make it a tradition in your family.  If you are a man, you can celebrate it too.

Dedicated to all of the women in the world.  

Best Three Things I’m Looking Foward Too!

tipstagram_self8It has been awhile since I’ve blogged.  Life has a way of getting messing with my plans but I’m back and I wanted my first post of 2014 to be about the things that I’m looking forward too in 2014 (and beyond).

2013 was a year of ups and downs. Good things happened (like a trip to Las Vegas and the acceptance of a new job) but also some bad things happen (usually involving house problems) but I’ve persevered – because that is sometimes the only way…to pull up those metaphorical pants and get on with things.

So for the start of 2014, I sat myself down and did a big self-evaluation.  A self-evaluation that looked at all of the aspects of my life and how I can continue or approve upon them…it was also a little soul searching because as the year was winding down – I realized that I had lost touch with it .  No, nothing bad just that I hadn’t been paying it much attention.  Feeding the soul is something that I think gets overlooked in our lives and mine need some TLC.   That is why I did the self-evaluation – I needed to have things to look forward to and to strive for.

So here is my best three:

1.  Volunteering

2. Taking ME time

3.  Starting something new

Volunteering.  Something that I always say I want to do but end up making up so many excuses why I can’t.  Not this year.  This year, I’m looking at volunteering opportunities in my community and going to sign myself up.  I think this is something that not enough people do (and should be).  So many organizations need help.  So the question I asked myself, WHY NOT?  What is actually preventing me from NOT volunteering?  I honestly couldn’t come up with anything so now its on the top of my list to look forward too this year.

Taking capital M-E time.  This is something that I also seem to forgot to do or make excuses not to do.  This doesn’t mean I need to book spa time…no this just means that I need to focus on things that make me happy – that separate me from my the world.  For me, this means a solitary walk, listening to music, reading, playing a video game, doing crafts…it doesn’t cost money…its just for me.   I don’t do this enough and this is something I’m changing and looking forward too.

Starting something new.  If you’re like me, I usually start something but never finish it.  Or I have so many great ideas, I start but again never pursue.  That is changing this year.  This year I’m going to start a novel.  I’m going to start some new craft projects (from start to end).  I’m going to learn computer programming.  I’m not letting anything stand in my way.  No excuses.

Best Three Things to Say to People that ask when you’re going to have kids

First let me say, this is a post that might offend some parents and the people that ask this type of question (usually its people that are currently pregnant or have kids already – hence the parents).  It is not my intention to offend at all (however it might happen).  I do apologize to anyone that I offend.

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This is a topic that is a constant annoyance and I wanted to put it out there in the hopes that people will understand just how annoying it is to constantly be asked or have to hear “When are you going to have kids?” or “Are you planning to have kids?” “How long have you been married – oh, no kids yet?” or  “Do you want kids?”  I could go on with all the things I’ve heard.  Honestly this really is the thing that bothers me the most – sure I’m bothered by the lack of a clear vision for climate change or when ‘men’ leave the toilet seat up, but being asked about when I plan to have kids is the highest bother on my list of things that bother me.

I don’t have kids.  Would I like them – YES, more than you can imagine.  Will kids be a possibility for me – NO, I don’t think they will.  That is something that I have to deal with on a daily basis.  It’s painful.  It’s heart wrenching.  I just wished that people would realize that there are so many reasons, many of them personal, as to why people might not have children and that they keep their mouth shut.

 

So in order to minimize my pain, I try and find the humor and think of the greatest things to say to the people that ask me these questions.  It might not be the best way to deal with it but it really shuts up the ‘stupid’ people and their questions.

1.  Kids?  Yikes that would screw with my sex life.  Don’t want to mess with that.

2.  I have kids.  Their names are Penny and Mars.  I have to feed them, walk them and love them.

3.  When world peace has been achieved.

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Best Three Reasons Not to be Polite for a Change

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All of our lives, we are told to be polite.  Drilled into our heads as children that we need to be courteous and polite to others.  Parents use the famous saying of “Don’t forget to say “PLEASE” and “THANK YOU.”  These are values that are ingrained in us and that we carry into adulthood.  Yet along the way, some people forget the basics – they no longer think they need to say please and thank you to others.  It becomes a distant memory in their minds.  They’ve carved out new values and those teachings about being polite fly right out the window.

There are a lot of these people.  I encounter them on a daily basis.  It’s amazing really the amount of people…and that is why I started to think about this topic.  I explored the reasoning behind why I need to be polite.  Sure my parents told me to be but why I’m I still polite.  I’m an adult.  I make my own decisions, I pay bills, I work, and yet I’m always polite.

That is why this post is a departure for me and I’m venturing into new territory – to a place where I advocate reason why you don’t need to be polite.

1.  It gets annoying when you never get a thank you or thanks back for doing something polite

2. People stare at you strangely when you say please and thank you

3.  Its exhausting being so polite

I don’t know how many times I’ve done something nice and polite – open the door for someone; get out of my seat for someone on the bus; let a car in front of me on a jammed-packed road full of traffic…I could go on and on with these examples and I would say about 5% of the time (that is 5% out of 100%) someone will say thank you.

People do stare at you strangely when you say please and thank you.  It seems likes its a crazy foreign language that they have never heard before.  I get this a lot.

Always saying thank you and please is definitely exhausting.  There are a lot of reasons where you need to say it and it just gets to be so tough to keep it up.

All in all, I’m still going to be polite (that is how my parents raised me) and something I believe makes me who I am but sometimes I really like the best three reasons why not to be polite for a change.

Best Three Ways to Change the World

I was in the grocery store the other day and there was a woman and her daughter in line.  I’m not one to listen in to other peoples conversations but these two were being loud and it was one of those times when you can’t help but overhear.  The daughter had to be no more than 16 years old.  She was well-dressed for a 16 year old with all the high end labels, even with a Michael Kors handbag – which we all know are pretty expense (even when discounted) and texting on her iPhone 5.  The extent of the conversation wasn’t that important – usual teenage and parent stuff but it was when her mother made a comment about a front page story on a newspaper that was by the check-out and the response given by her daughter that made me want to write this post.

The newspaper story was about a young family that was barely surviving and this journalist asked the mother of this family about some of the hardest times.  The mother goes on to explain that it’s the times when she can’t afford any food for her child and she is forced to let her child go hungry.

Coming back to the mother and daughter in line at the grocery store, the mother commented that this was sad and the daughter, in all her 16 year old-I-Have-everything ignorance said,  “Who cares about these people anyways, they have nothing to do with me.  It sucks to be them but honestly Mom, nobody cares”.

My first reaction was to hit this girl across the head (which took a lot of strength from me not too) but I also wanted to hit the Mom who didn’t say anything to her daughter.  Nothing.

So this is the main reason for my post.  What has happen to us as a society?  We have everything.  Everything at our grasp and we have this type of attitude toward people suffering.  I know this is not indicative of everyone’s feelings out in the world but poverty is still around.  We still have people that have everything and those that don’t.

1.  Appreciate what you have and never forget it (a lot of us don’t know what it feels like to be starving, to lose our dignity…)

2.  Donate (whether it be your time or your money)

3.  Pressure governments, organizations, and the 1% to help people who are struggling

 

Best Three Ways to Thank Your Mom (on Mother’s Day and on all other 364 days of the year)

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The role that a mother can play in her child’s life is tremendous and in honor of it almost being Mother’s Day (May 12), I wanted to devote a post to the most important women in our lives – our mothers.

For those of us that have had a positive influence from our mothers – even in a small way – it has effected us and shaped who we are (even though we may not acknowledge or realize it).  That is why today (even though I’m far away from my own mother) I wanted to share the best three ways to thank your mother and on all other 364 days of the year.

1.  Go and see her – spend time with her…and let her know you love and cherish her

2.  Talk to her (if you are not in the same place) – don’t let your life take over and forget to call – make the time (that is my own personal lesson)

3.  Surprise her with random things (not just gifts) but a walk, going to the movies, going shoe shopping together, visiting a museum etc. – this just let’s her know that you are thinking about her and that you care and enjoy her company!

To all the mother’s out there – Happy Mother’s Day