Best Three Reasons Not to be Polite for a Change

Thank You

Thank You (Photo credit: mandiberg)

All of our lives, we are told to be polite.  Drilled into our heads as children that we need to be courteous and polite to others.  Parents use the famous saying of “Don’t forget to say “PLEASE” and “THANK YOU.”  These are values that are ingrained in us and that we carry into adulthood.  Yet along the way, some people forget the basics – they no longer think they need to say please and thank you to others.  It becomes a distant memory in their minds.  They’ve carved out new values and those teachings about being polite fly right out the window.

There are a lot of these people.  I encounter them on a daily basis.  It’s amazing really the amount of people…and that is why I started to think about this topic.  I explored the reasoning behind why I need to be polite.  Sure my parents told me to be but why I’m I still polite.  I’m an adult.  I make my own decisions, I pay bills, I work, and yet I’m always polite.

That is why this post is a departure for me and I’m venturing into new territory – to a place where I advocate reason why you don’t need to be polite.

1.  It gets annoying when you never get a thank you or thanks back for doing something polite

2. People stare at you strangely when you say please and thank you

3.  Its exhausting being so polite

I don’t know how many times I’ve done something nice and polite – open the door for someone; get out of my seat for someone on the bus; let a car in front of me on a jammed-packed road full of traffic…I could go on and on with these examples and I would say about 5% of the time (that is 5% out of 100%) someone will say thank you.

People do stare at you strangely when you say please and thank you.  It seems likes its a crazy foreign language that they have never heard before.  I get this a lot.

Always saying thank you and please is definitely exhausting.  There are a lot of reasons where you need to say it and it just gets to be so tough to keep it up.

All in all, I’m still going to be polite (that is how my parents raised me) and something I believe makes me who I am but sometimes I really like the best three reasons why not to be polite for a change.

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Best Three Things that I’m Thankful For

As I get older I’ve begun to look back on my life and realize that I’m truly a blessed person.  I don’t use the word as a religious term but one that I use to help describe the amount of things in my life that I’m thankful for.  In context, there are still lots of things I don’t have but as the years start to climb, I’ve realized that they are just things – things I want but not things I necessarily need.  However, the things that I’m thankful for are truly the things that I need and want in my life.

In a society that is materialistic, vain and consumer driven, its nice to step back from all of that and simply look at my life and see the things that I would be devastated without and the things that I wouldn’t even notice were missing if they were.  That is why I’ve dedicated this post to the best three things that I’m thankful for.

1.  My family

2. The roof over my head and food in my belly

3.  My freedom

I think a lot of people would have their family as the first thing to be thankful for – so I’m not alone.  I have to say it (and I know other may disagree) but my family is the greatest.

I have been blessed with a father and mother who are the epitome of the ultimate parents.  They have raised me, clothed me, fed me and loved me.  They allowed me to grow, allowed me to make good and bad choices – while always there in the background when I needed them.  They always put my needs before their own.  They taught me manners, values, ethics.  They believed in me, even when I didn’t believe in myself.  They encouraged me, guided me and provided me with every opportunity they could.  They are what every parents should be and I’m lucky to have them.  My siblings, I know would echo my words and sentiments.

I was also blessed with an older brother and sister.  A brother that was always interested in showing me all the things out there in the world and of course an older sister that always looked out for me and is not only a sister but also my best friend.

Full Siblings

Full Siblings (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

I have also been lucky to find the love of my life and someone that rounds out my family.  He means everything to me and there is not a day that goes by that I’m not thankful that he had the patience to wait for me because I couldn’t imagine my life without him.

The second thing that I’m thankful for is the roof over my head (my house) and the food in my belly.  I once went to a lecture that a local university was sponsoring about the life of a Holocaust survivor.  I can still remember the silence of the room as an older man took to the stage and looked up at the audience and said “None of you know what its like to be so hungry, to be humiliated, to have everything taken away…”   They were words I never forgot.  He went on to talk about being hungry and as he talked, he broke down and started crying.  I never forgot that.  That is why I’m thankful to have a house that shelters me from the elements and I’m so thankful that I have never had to feel hungry.

The last thing that I’m thankful for is my freedom.  There is nothing else I can say to that.